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The Most Effective Interpersonal Communication "Six Skills"

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Interpersonal Communication How To Communicate And How To Communicate Skillfully.

In P's daily life and work, we often feel a sense of loneliness, insignificance, inferiority and confusion.

This feeling is something we do not like and do not need.

Because it is very negative, contrary to the psychology of success and the triumph of life.

Then, what causes the bad psychological reaction of human beings?

in a nutshell, the problem lies in the fact that our mind and the world do not have effective a href= "http://sjfzxm.com/news/index_c.asp" > communication < /a >.

P communication with the world is essentially communication with people in the world, and communication must be purposeful.

It can be said that no matter what we are doing or what we want to do, we must learn to communicate well with others if we want to succeed.

In shopping malls, there is a famous saying called "connections are money pulse".

If a aspiring person wants to work well in his work and develop his grand plan, he must be good at communicating effectively with his superiors, subordinates and colleagues in order to get through his success.

So that young people fall in love, but also learn to grasp the other side's special psychology, so as to be able to move into the emotional world of each other smartly.

Therefore, communication is always the primary talent that people should master in their life and career.

In a sense, it is the most important means and strategy for us to acquire wealth, happiness, happiness and health.

the saying goes: two armies meet and wise men win.

Wisdom and wisdom are the core of mind.

In the process of communication and interaction between people, the heart is the most mysterious world.

There is no way to open the closed door of people's hearts.

As long as we guided by the principle of success and effectively grasp some effective skills, we can easily knock on the door of anyone's mind.

here, we should bear in mind that the strategy of getting people's hearts is not only based on the logical power of reason, but also to a great extent on one's intelligence quotient.

For though the heart is strong, it is also very fragile.

Once the key points are identified, whether for lovers, customers, presidents or tens of thousands of strangers, or in work or life situations, the result is often unexpected and twice the result with half the effort.

before we master these successful skills, the first thing we need to do is to correctly understand the nature of human beings and human beings.

This is the beginning of our efforts to open the hearts of the people and enhance interpersonal skills.

communication skills with people (1) strong > understanding human and human nature /p >

< < a href= > http://sjfzxm.com//business/ > interpersonal communication > /a > the first step in mastering successful interpersonal skills is to understand human and human nature correctly.

when you understand human and human nature correctly, when you understand why people do that, when you understand why people react to things in a certain situation or environment, then only then will you become a successful person with interpersonal skills.

Understanding people and human nature can be simply interpreted as "P". We must identify with people according to their essence, and identify themselves with people, instead of looking at others in their own eyes.

What are people like? People first are interested in themselves, not interested in other things! In other words, a person pays more attention to himself than to others or something ten thousand times.

everyone is like this, including you, you are more interested in yourself than anyone else in the world.

this is human nature.

You must thoroughly understand this.

Because human behavior is dominated by their own thoughts and feelings, this characteristic is very strong in human beings. For example, in the charitable cause, his greatest achievement is to donate the satisfaction, pride and enjoyment that this behavior brings to him, rather than the meaning of the donated items to others.

Therefore, the real purpose of his concern is himself.

perhaps you think this is not selfish? Friends, that's the fact. This is human nature. Everyone is like this. You don't have to feel guilty and embarrassed because human beings came to the world at the very beginning.

Reality is always a reality. It is not pferred by human will.

Our best practice is to recognize it, respect it and make good use of it.

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understand that "people care about themselves first" is the foundation of your interaction with others.

Recognizing that "people first concern about themselves rather than others" is also the key to life. It can give you the wisdom and skills to interact with others. It enables you to grasp the true meaning of life, it enables you to have more friends, and it enables you to grasp the secret of success.

In the following content, you will understand that many successful skills are derived from the understanding and application of the idea that "people first concern themselves".

please bear in mind that this view must be kept in mind, because this is the basis and key for your successful interaction with people.

Now let's repeat this sentence again; in nature, we are most concerned about ourselves.

communication skills with people (two) -- how to talk with others skillfully /p >

when you talk with others, please choose the topics they are most interested in.

So what are they most interested in? They are themselves!!

when you talk to them about themselves, they will be full of enthusiasm and enthusiasm, and will be totally fascinated by them. They will also feel good about you.

when you talk with people about themselves, you conform to human nature, and when you talk with people about yourself, you are against humanity.

communication skills with people (three) -- how to make others feel important. /p >

the most common characteristic of mankind -- a characteristic that you and others have, a strong characteristic that drives people to do all kinds of good or bad things is to yearn for recognition and desire to be understood.

are you willing to be like a duck in water in your relationships? Try to make others aware of their importance.

Remember, the more you make others feel important, the more rewards others will have for you, and you will become important in his mind.

For example, "Mr. Zhang, we really need your help. According to your experience and ability, this plan will be an early success."

For example, "Miss Chen, why didn't you attend the party yesterday? It's really a pity that you were absent from the party."

everyone is eager to become an important person. This is the foundation of the oriental culture characteristic of "face saving".

No one wants to be considered dispensable. No one wants to be ignored or denied by others.

don't forget that it is as important for others to treat themselves as you think about yourself.

The effective use of this feature is one of the cornerstones of successful interpersonal relationships.

now let's tell you some advice on how to recognize others and how to make people feel important:

1. try to use these words - "you" or "yours" instead of "me", "myself, my".

2. must listen to others .

if you refuse to listen to others, you will make the other person deeply feel that he is not important and think he is really dispensable. If you listen attentive to others carefully, you will make them feel very important.

3. praise and flatter them and care for their families.

when they are praiseworthy, they praise them in time and make them happy.

For example, "everyone knows about your PR planning skills. This will be a great success."

In addition, showing their family members in a timely manner will also help you become friends with them soon.

4. use their names and photos as often as possible ().

we should call them names rather than forget their names.

If you have the chance, you can also use their photos, which will make them feel that you are very kind and will make them like you very much.

5., before answering their words, please pause slightly below /p.

because a pause in a short time will make them feel that you have listened carefully and pondered what they said, and affirmed that what they said is worth considering.

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6. affirms those who wait to see you,

if people who want to see you must wait, be sure to let them know that you are waiting. This is part of paying attention to others.

When you see someone waiting for you, you can say, "I'm sorry to keep you waiting."

These simple and polite words often make those who are waiting for you feel very warm.

7. pay attention to each person

don't just focus on leaders or spokespersons. Don't just focus on those who are authoritative or worthy of your attention.

as long as you pay attention to the above points, you will surely make a good impression on people.

communication skills with people (four) -- how to skillfully agree with others /p >

skillfully handling interpersonal relationships, the most important thing is to master the art of "agreeable to others".

In fact, this is also one of the crystallization of wisdom in our age.

Perhaps, in your life, you can never find such a simple technique as "agreeable to others".

as long as we are alive, we must never forget that any fool will oppose others. Only wise men and great men will agree with others. Especially when they make mistakes, they know better how to agree with others and agree with others.

, how do we apply the art of "agreeable to others"?

1.. Society agrees and recognised .

in your own mind, you must form an attitude, a frame of thinking, that is, an agreed attitude, cultivate a kind of agreeable personality, and become a natural person who agrees with others and recognised others.

2. when you agree with others, you must say "/p".

if you only use hints to let people know that you agree with them, it is far from enough.

If you want them to know that you are approving and approving them, you may try to do so, nodding your head, saying "yes", or staring at each other's eyes and saying, "I agree with you" or "you are right, I totally agree". "I think you have a good view."

Wait.

3. when you disagree with others, please do not tell them unless you have to.

even if others can't agree with you, do not express your objection easily. If so, you will soon be in conflict with people, and you will lose a lot. So please do not deny others easily unless you have to do so.

4.. When you make a mistake, be bold enough to admit it.

ordinary people usually lie when they make a mistake, they will deny or argue, but whenever you make a mistake, you must bravely say "I am wrong, forgive me", "sorry, this is my fault" and so on.

It is a great courage to admit mistakes. But people will be very impressed by a person who is brave enough to admit mistakes. People will also recognize or understand your actions to improve your image. P

5. avoid arguing with others.

the most taboo in interpersonal relationships is arguing with others.

Because no one can win the argument, and no one will win friends from the dispute.

Even if you are right, do not argue. This is not the best way to solve the problem.

Please keep this in mind.

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6. correctly handling conflicts.

belligerent just want to do one thing - fight it down.

The best way to deal with them is to refuse to fight with them.

In this way, they not only enhanced their identities, but also showed their uncommon manners, and made the combative people feel flustered and uncontrollable. They were so angry that they could steal seven cigarettes and appear foolish and ridiculous.

in the final analysis, the root of the art is that 1. people like people who agree with them.

2. people do not like those who oppose them.

3. people do not like to be opposed.

from now on, please actively agree with others! As long as you know and use the art of approval, you will become a popular person.

communication skills with people (five) -- how to listen carefully to others'

the more you listen, the wiser you will become. The more information you have, the more you will be loved and accepted by more people, and you will become a better conversation partner.

nothing in life can help you more effectively than being an audience.

a good listener will win more goodwill than a good speaker.

This is because a good listener can always make people listen to their favorite speakers themselves.

"P" is not an easy thing to be a good listener. So, to be a good listener, listen to our advice.

P > 1, when listening, look at the speaker.

If P is worth listening to, you should look at him, use your pious eyes to let him feel your piety, win his praise and gain his trust.

Gaze at the other person's skill is to look at each other's brows.

In this way, you can avoid embarrassing.

2. near the speaker, lean forward and concentrate on listening.

must let people feel your desire for what he says, and do not want to leave out any word.

Let the speaker feel that you are concentrating and concentrating on listening. When you talk with people, you must not be careless and act like a careless person.

3. do not interrupt the speaker's topic.

No matter how eager you are to crave a new topic and how to express your opinion, do not interrupt the speaker's topic. You should keep your words in mind until he has finished his own speech.

4., ingenious and appropriate questions.

questions must be ingenious and appropriate. Avoid blind or excessive questions.

If permitted, refining and short questions will enable the speaker to know that you are listening carefully.

For example, "what happened later?" "your conclusion is..."

Remember, asking questions is also a form of flattery.

Please note that these suggestions are not merely courtesy, but humility will never make you get the huge rewards that listening can bring to you.

, so you must learn to listen carefully to others.

You will be more and more aware of how important listening is in the successful communication of human beings.

please strive to be a good listener in your life, and you will gain more goodwill and trust from others.

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communication skills with people (six) -- how to skillfully influence others /p >

the first step to make people do things according to your wishes is to find out the reason for them to do so, that is, what they want.

The first step in making people do things according to your wishes is to find out the reason for them to do so, that is, what they want.

when you know what moves them, you will know how to move them.

everyone is unique, their preferences are different, and their views on things are different.

Do not mistake what you like and what others like.

What do you pursue and what others pursue?

And learn to find what they like and what they are looking for.

P talks with others, and they will be moved if they can identify the topic and talk about what they want to hear.

You simply need to tell them that if they do what you ask them to do, you can get what they want from them.

this is a great trick to influence others.

This means hitting the target with your words.

Of course, you must know where the target is.

apply this principle to real life.

If you are a manager of a company and are looking for a financial officer, you know that a few companies want to hire him.

by applying the above principles, "to understand what people think", you should first judge what the financial man is longing for and try to attract him.

If you find that he needs a higher position, you should show him that you can provide him with a high position. If he seeks stability, you can talk to him about stability. If he pays attention to further study, you can talk to him about this topic.

Another example is: you want to recruit a good salesman into your company, and the salesman also pays great attention to the preferential treatment.

You can say this: "Xiao Liu, first-class salesperson should have first-class income, and first-class income must rely on first-class products and sales policies.

Our products, sales policies and the huge consumer market will double your personal income in one year, that is to say, your annual income in our company should be around 80 thousand yuan.

Our company also attaches great importance to giving full play to the talents of salesmen, and can provide you with all the advantages of life and work.

In the final analysis, you should discover what others think and tell them to do what you want to do so that they can achieve their goals.

when you know what they need, tell them what they want to hear.

but it is not easy to understand what people think. You must ask more, observe more, listen more, and add your unremitting efforts.

In this way, you will truly understand what others think and master the magic tricks that influence others.

Please strive to become an influential person. As long as you can clearly and frankly talk about what others think, you want to influence others, it will become a piece of cake.